My last girlfriend standing is due in dec/ jan – and she knew how to keep a secret well, not that I would have scolded her. Honestly I would have genuinely been happy for her.
The other day I had lunch with one of my girls and she had just been proposed to. I was excited for her, over the moon …thrilled in fact, then I asked her so how about kids and career ( she is a go getter like I am). Her expression did all the talking for her, ‘ Babies come first’, she said. At that moment it dawn on me I was the last girl left standing in my circle of friends who wasn’t looking for a baby anytime soon or willing to have a man ride me all night long in the name of making one.
So then my mother asked me the other day, if I was born without maternal instincts, next thing I knew I being introduced to some stinking rich guy who did not hesitate to get my number and ask me too lunch. The fact that he was shorter than me bothered me. In my mother’s words, ‘every girl needs a man, if you cant find any I will help you get one’, She went on to listed the qualities she knew would work for me. The funny part was all possible suitors did not fit the profile.
So this brings me to my question; would it be so wrong if I opted for IVF (artificial insemination) in our African society? Why would I opt for that?! Because I am a proud preacher the NBM (not before marriage) and I don’t see any wedding bells for me in the next six weeks let alone next year. So would it be so wrong if I waited to have a child of my own, chased my career and after am a big-time shot I run down a clinic, put my feet up and get some random doctor shoot sperm of someone I will never meet up me. Plus side high chances I will have twins that I have always wanted hence two for the price of one.
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Hmmm..... your girls friends are in a rush. I will disagree with you on having your own child, many of my girl friends have gone down that road(with a donor of course) but they are really unhappy, don' let the media fool you.
I suggest you wait on the right guy, it is all about timing.
Go read Kenyansister's blog.
Not worth it! Those twins will need a daddy to love and assure them so really...maybe it's not just about you.
About being the last girl standing - everybody has got a different story don't spend your life hustling about what other people have, you've got your life to live.
Your time will come and maybe then the maternal instincts will kick it. :)
lols @ 'putting my feet up & get some random doctor shoot sperm of someone i will never meet up''
hehehe...it's not as easy as it sounds sweetie. after that random doctor has shoot the sperm, reality hits, emotions are all over the place and i think it wd be nice to share all this with baby daddy...
i am thinking, keep chasing your career, while at it, who knows...in perfect time...He will show up and your post will be..
''I am glad i waited''
**you are welcome..:-)
There is no hurry in getting kids at this age; only 24! When the right time comes...
If I get kids I want their father to be there.
Oh my ..i guess i will have to wait for an actual father then...hmmmm
finally reality is kicking in..its a bitch innit?
"njagala...it definitely is....:-(
To say i get what you are going through would be an understatement. Especially since the little baby of the family, my baby sis - is getting married.
My best friends are all lining up and filing down the aisle one by one.
Me.
...
(you get the point)
My advice.
Wait for the dashingly handsome, yet roguish son of God.
Have those twins together.
by considering IVF means you have maternal instinct so no worries for your mum there. why the rush though. Are you bordering menopause,,i doubt it so chill and let life happen.
@ TRP..am waiting hun.. least i have your moral support ..when i have the twins with him you are so baby sitting
@Mbabazi..let life happen ..btw am i on the guest list for that wedding ..?
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